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Surviving the Winter Blues: Why Who You Live With Matters

Short days, cold weather and exam stress hit hard. The right housemates can give you social momentum; the wrong ones can leave you feeling isolated.

January 10, 2026
8 min read
By Domu Match Team

January hits differently. It is dark when you wake up and dark before dinner. Money is tighter after the holidays. Deadlines pile up. If you are far from home or already prone to low mood, this is prime time for the winter blues to kick in - and your living situation can either buffer that or make it worse.

Student looking out of a window on a dark winter day
In winter, isolation hits harder - the people you live with have a direct impact on how heavy it feels.

What the Winter Blues Actually Are

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is a type of depression that follows a seasonal pattern, usually getting worse in autumn and winter when there is less daylight. Common symptoms include low mood, sleeping more, craving carbohydrates, and withdrawing from social contact (NHS, 2023). Even if you do not meet the full criteria for SAD, many students feel a "winter dip" in energy and motivation.

Mental health resources often recommend routines like regular daylight exposure, movement and staying socially connected to help prevent mood from spiralling (National Institute of Mental Health, 2023). The people you live with can make those habits easier - or much harder.

When Home Amplifies Isolation

A home that works against you in winter often looks like this:

  • Everyone hides in their rooms with doors closed and headphones in.
  • No one notices if you have not left the house all weekend.
  • There is tension or conflict, so you avoid common areas.
  • You feel like a burden if you mention you are struggling.

That kind of environment can quietly compound low mood. You end up with the worst of both worlds: exhausted by uni, and emotionally alone at home.

When Home Helps You Cope

A winter‑friendly home does not have to be hyper‑extroverted. It just needs:

  • Housemates who check in on each other in small, non‑dramatic ways.
  • Enough shared routine that you do not go days without seeing another human.
  • Respect for quiet days without pressure to be “on”.
  • People who will say, "Want to go for a short walk while it’s still light?"

Matching with people who have similar social habits and empathy levels makes it much more likely that your flat naturally behaves like this.

Group of students drinking hot drinks together indoors
In winter, even small rituals - tea in the kitchen, a shared series - can help keep you connected.

How Domu Match Helps You Build a Winter Support System

Domu Match does not just match on rent and location; it looks at social rhythms, coping styles and home vibe. Our questionnaire includes items about:

  • How often you like to hang out at home.
  • Whether you want spontaneous gatherings or more planned social time.
  • How you tend to cope when stressed - reaching out vs. withdrawing.
  • What kind of home feels safest when you are under pressure.

That means you can purposely look for matches who also value mutual support, low‑key togetherness, or calm, introvert‑friendly spaces. You are not leaving your winter mental health to chance.

You can start exploring those matches by creating a profile and completing the questionnaire on our sign‑up page.

Especially for International Students

If you moved countries for university, winter can feel even heavier. Different climate, different food, different holidays - and family in another time zone. Your flatmates might be the closest thing you have to a local support system.

Matching with people who are open to cultural differences, or who are also international students, can make it easier to be honest about homesickness and low mood. You should not have to explain from scratch why certain dates are hard or why you are calling home late at night.

References

National Health Service. (2023). Seasonal affective disorder (SAD). NHS. Retrieved from https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/seasonal-affective-disorder-sad/

National Institute of Mental Health. (2023). Seasonal affective disorder. U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Retrieved from https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/seasonal-affective-disorder

Build a Winter Support System at Home

Use Domu Match to match with housemates whose social habits and empathy levels help you get through the darker months.

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